"you win some, you lose some...yea! But what's your record though?"
Jay-Z & Beyonce
Hope this finds you all in good health and spirits.
What’s to follow might touch a few nerves, but with it I’ll do my best to stick to what I’m good at and that’s giving MY opinion. You’re always welcome to agree, disagree, and even add on if you like. So here we go...
There are a lot of rules in this game called life, I don’t know them all. The few that I have learned over time I have a hard time following. I know my problem. I’m too young, wild, and free. I want it now. I’m getting better at this patience thing though but I digress. Two other major rules I’ve learned thus far are these.
1a. Know your role.
1b. Play your part.
This affects all aspects of life. They’re intertwined with each other. To play your part you have to know your role. Oh and you have to accept said role too. Then and only then can you successfully play your part.
In the words of Charlamagne The God (105.1 Breakfast Club Morning show host & hip hop personality/journalist) … “Too many chiefs not enough indians. Too many Beyonce’s not enough Michelle’s. Know your place and play your position...Moral of the story is everybody can’t be Lebron. Somebody gotta be Chris Bosh and that’s perfectly fine. Know your role and play it well.”
I was talking to a friend of mine the other day and somehow we got to subject of the dude Beyonce was with before Jay-Z. Something about him sweating her as her career was taking off or something along those lines, so she dropped him so she could focus on her blossoming career. Not too long after that Jay-Z swoops in and boom she’s out of reach. I don’t know the validity of this story but let’s say it was true, that’s a good example to start with. Now (in the event the story is true) think how mad the dude has to be knowing that all he had to do was chill, let Beyonce do her thing, don’t trip and he’ll be the one saying “yep, that’s my girl/woman/wife performing at the superbowl, and killing it I might add.” That is where not knowing your role and not playing your part could land you. His role at the time was to be the supportive boyfriend and he would’ve been good, now he’s salty because she’s with Jay-Z and he’s with God knows who. Once again I don’t know if it’s true, but I’ll say this, if I was him, I’d be hella mad. I’d definitely be a Jay-Z hater.
D Wade, Chris Bosh, & LeBron
If you want a happy relationship, know what your role is in said relationship. If your role is to be a friend because you don’t have the title yet, be just that. Pressing for the title and the public recognition of the relationship isn’t going to make it last, or make him stay, or act and treat you right (this is for you ladies by the way). Plus fellas, sweating her isn’t going to make her want you. Especially with these new breed of women. Lawddd! It’s like they live to post the screenshot of how you were texting them non stop or the more famous telling any and everyone willing to listen "yea he tried to talk to me." (what happened to the good ol' it didn't work so keep it moving...but hey we’re just built different...I'm digressing).
By now I would hope you get the gist of what I’m trying to get at. In case you don’t I’ll state it a little differently one more time...There are going to be many times where you find yourself in situations that you’re not totally comfortable with. It might be that you’re not the focus of someones attention, (i.e. relationships etc) or in the workplace you’re not getting the recognition you “think” you deserve. If and when you find yourself in such situation I implore you to know what your role is and get really good at playing your part. I can almost guarantee that doing this will eliminate a great portion of the stress you feel in your daily lives (gotta say almost because some people just like to be miserable and stressed out). Elimination of such stress and unnecessary worries allows you to be even better at playing your role and more prepared to possibly SEE and SEIZE an opportunity that may present itself. This opportunity might be what you need to better yourself or position or in this case change your role.
Now here is a quick examples based on a true life story that shows how knowing your role can be very beneficial and reduce stress and seizing an opportunity...Guy meets Girl, Guy tells Girl he doesn’t want a relationship. Guy just wants to have fun and see what happens. Girl understands now her role is to be just be a friend that he has fun with. Girl plays the part to the best of her ability. Girl isn’t nosy. Girl doesn’t throw fits when things don’t go how she wants because after all they’re just friends. Girl doesn’t do all the extra stuff girls do (I think this part doesn’t need an explanation). Couple months go by and Guy realizes that Girl is really cool. She’s a good friend and he finds himself wanting to spend more time with her than he already does. Guy ends up dating Girl for approximately 2 years because not soon after he realized how cool she was, he also realized he had no reason to even deal with other girls when he already had one that didn't give him nearly as much problems or issues as the others, and so on and so forth. He also realized that being with her wouldn’t be a lot for either of them to handle because being they've already been friends. They already have fun together. Also, being friends showed him that she (like every friend should) had his best interests at heart and as long as he was happy she was good. What more could he ask for?
Ok that sounds like a fairytale, but that actually happened. Not saying it will happen for you but it happened. It’s not just relationships either. It goes for in the workplace and in life. Just like the LeBron James and Chris Bosh example from Charlamagne earlier. The Miami Heat wouldn’t be champions if Chris Bosh didn’t know his role and play it well. If Mario Chalmers tried to have the ball in his hand all the time and be the one making all the plays they wouldn’t be successful. Even D. Wade deferred from his usual role of being the Man on the team to LeBron because he realized that was the role he had to play in order for him to reach his goal of winning another ring. The examples go on but I'll end here.
So my parting words to you guys this time is this...KNOW YOUR ROLE AND PLAY YOUR PART.
Let me know if it works.