"you win some, you lose some...yea! But what's your record though?"
Don’t be alarmed by the title of this post, it’s simply the name of a Lupe Fiasco song. I was going to censor the title but then I figured I'd leave it because it is more attention grabbing. As soon as I heard the song, I liked it (but not for the reason you’re probably thinking) and I knew I had to share it with some people. I played it for a few of my friends but then I decided to write about it and see what people thought of the song as well. For those who haven’t heard this song I’d like you to listen first before I share my opinion on it.
Here it is:
Trina. The self proclaimed "baddest."
For a quick summary I’ll touch on a few points that stuck out to me. In the first verse of the song Lupe talks about a young boy who has an undeveloped context of good or bad. So when his mother, his number one protector and source of help, is in the car singing along to a song about being a “bitch” he believes that’s a good thing. He thinks it is a good thing because not only has he related the word “bitch” with his mother, but his mother is relating it to herself as well.
Now the second verse of the song is about a group of young girls that are “malleable and probably unmentored” watching the music video of a song by their favorite singer. Once again this song they’re listening to has “bad bitch” all over it, with the artist in the song repeating how all he wants is a “bad bitch.” The girls aren’t paying attention to the artist, they’re paying attention to the woman in the video “acquiescent to his whims.” All they see is the high heels, fat booty, long hair, slim body, and probably wearing next to nothing. “They don’t see a paid actress, just what makes a bad bitch.”
Lupe Fiasco then brings the song full circle in the third verse when this young boy meets one of the young girls. The boy thinks the girl is a bad bitch and the girl thinks she’s a bad bitch as well. It would seem good since they both think the same thing, however, he is thinking of being a “bad bitch” as a form of disrespect but she thinks of “bad bitch” sexually. The young boy just thinks she’s bad at being a bitch because his mother who he also sees as a “bitch’ never dressed like that. She never had her breasts, her booty, or just her body in general out like that. This girl to him is doing a bad job of being a bitch. The last five lines of the song conclude the story so eloquently. They go:
“He caught in a reality, she caught in an illusion
Bad mean good to her, she really nice and smart
But bad mean bad to him, bitch don't play your part
But bitch still bad to her if you say it the wrong way
But she think she a bitch, what a double entendre.”
Another "bad bitch"... Nicki Minaj
I think this song is great not because of the beat, the melodies, or even the artist (even though Lupe Fiasco is one of my favorite rappers and I like a lot for his work). I think this song is great because it makes you think. It presents a very plausible scenario for the future based on what is going on today. It makes me realize that you have to be careful what you feed your mind because a lot of that governs what your perception of what people do or in this case say to you. Lupe Fiasco even touches on this subject when he says:
“Disclaimer: this rhymer, Lupe, is not usin' "bitch" as a lesson
But as a psychological weapon
To set in your mind and really mess with your conceptions
Discretions, reflections, it's clever misdirection...”
I think there isn’t much else to say about this song, but one thing I do know is that it brings up a lot of questions. Some of them include what are your views on the term “bad bitch?” For women who refer to themselves as bad bitches, what do you mean? For men who say they want a bad bitch, what do you mean? Is it ever a good thing to refer to yourself or someone else as “bad bitch?” For women who refer to themselves and their friends as bitches why is alright for you to do that, but as soon as a man does the same it becomes a problem? I think this is somewhat similar to us black men referring to each other as “nigga,” yet we get mad when someone of a different race calls us by that term.
Now I’ll go on the record and say this, if I ever refer to a woman, or even anyone for that matter, as a “bitch” or any other phrase that involves that word it’s never a good thing. If I do it’s either an off the cuff or knee jerk reaction or I was compelled to. I can think of one instance where this happened and I’ll end this with a quick anecdote on that.
However, that right there is the epitome of why I ask what makes it alright for her to curse and refer to herself and her friend as a “bitch” but once I did it resulted in throwing blows?
For more instances of young women referring to themselves as bitches, all you have to do it go on twitter and search the term "bad bitch."
Thoughts, questions, opinions, and concerns anyone?