"you win some, you lose some...yea! But what's your record though?"
New Year's Eve w/ Tyren Johnson & Mark Swist
First I’ll start this with wishing everyone a Happy New Year. Hope this year is better than your last.
This post is going to be broken up into two parts. I was going to put it all into one but I don’t want to keep you reading for too long (I sometimes have the tendency to ramble). Plus both parts deal with two different yet similar subjects. So below is part one. It’s called “The New Year: How new is it?” I don’t know what I’m going to call the second part 2 yet but I’ll be sure to let you readers know that it’s the part 2 of this post.
Now to my personal opinion of the new year...
To me the new year is just another day at the office. Maybe it’s because I’m usually working on the 1st of the month but in my life (call me selfish and conceited) the new year starts on birthday. It is on my birthday that I do all my evaluations and see what I’ve done in the last year (starting from my previous birthday of course) and decide on what needs to change and what needs to stay the same. So by the first day of the new calendar year, my so called new year resolution(s) are already in full effect. My birthday is to me what the wedding day of the Godfather’s daughter is to man in need; I can’t refuse a request to myself. So whatever I want to do or decide to do or ask of myself to do or stop doing on that day, I put my all into achieving the said task.
This takes me to my next point. I think new year resolutions are stupid and pointless. Unless of course for those few outliers that actually take it seriously, make the necessary changes and are better for it. Most other people just make the resolution, stick to it for a month, then the dwindling starts and by April they’ve forgotten about their new year resolution. The year goes by and next thing you know it’s about to be another new year, and what do they do? That’s right you guessed it; they make another resolution and act like they didn’t fail woefully at achieving the one that they had the year before. So now they’re making another resolution hoping this is the one they keep. Why do that? Why lie to yourself?
Of course this doesn’t apply to everyone. I hate I have to say this because I know people will be compelled to point out that not everyone is like that. To them I say “if it don’t apply, let it fly.” If you feel the need to say something, you’re telling on yourself. It just shouldn’t take a new year for an individual to realize that something is going wrong in their life and now they want to make a change. Nor should any individual wait until the dawn of a new year to implement the changes they feel are necessary in their life.
Don’t get me wrong I understand the concept of it all. It’s the end of the year, you look back and think...wow a whole year has gone and you may not necessarily have anything tangible to show for it. In some cases you might think you’ve actually regressed in some areas and now is the time to set it straight. It’s totally understandable. I just strongly believe that it shouldn’t take a new year to tell you all that and if it does you’re more likely not to succeed because it’s not really genuine. It’s not sincere to yourself. It didn’t come to you naturally and as such your conviction to achieve it is not as strong as it should be.
Why? If that’s what you’re asking, here’s my answer. It’s because if it take a new year to wake you up, it means deep down inside you’re happy/content with the year you had. Not too many hiccups. You made it through. You didn’t push yourself too hard and as such you didn’t achieve anything too significant but you achieved just enough to make you happy. Now it’s the end of the year you want more, deep down you do, but to do that you have to go outside that comfort zone you've created for yourself but you’re not ready to do that. So what do you subconsciously do? You come up with an extravagant or a bunch of new year resolutions to focus your energy on for a little while to satiate this urge you have to achieve more then as I said in the beginning they wear off after a while and you’re back to the life you’re comfortable and content with.
But hey, it’s just my opinion. If you disagree it’s cool. Do you! Just make sure we have a conversation at the turn of the new year. About 360 days from now. However, those who do agree and subscribe to my school of thought, don't wait to make a change, start the day you realize the change needs to be made. Finally, evaluate yourself frequently, not just in the month of December.
As always, opinions and comments are always welcome.