A couple weeks ago I was listening to my favorite radio show The Breakfast Club. It comes on from 6am to 10am on 105.1 FM in New York. The show is hosted by Angela Yee, DJ Envy, and Charlamagne. They have a segment of the show called The Decision. During this segment they bring people on that have something to tell other people, or some news to break but they are scared to do it or need a little push getting it done. So they come on the show, share the news with the hosts of the show while the person they have to break the news to waits outside and has no idea what is going on. They then bring the person into the studio and there the news is broken. Now after they break the news to their friend or loved one or whoever it is they need to break the news to, the person receiving the news usually has a decision to make. Hence the name of the segment.
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On this day of the show, a woman had something she had to tell her boyfriend. So she comes on the show and says she has to tell her boyfriend of about 8 years that she's pregnant.
This is the part where you say...that's supposed to be good news for the guy right? WRONG!! I mean she said they've had a great relationship. He takes care of her, he has never cheated and all that good stuff but the catch is he doesn’t want kids. She even lets the hosts of the show know that he made it clear to her from day 1 of their relationship, which was some 8 years ago, that he didn't want a child so it wasn't news to her. It wasn’t something he sprung on here out the blue one day. In fact, him not wanting a child is why she had been on birth control pill that whole time.
This is the part where you say...accidents happen, the birth control pill isn’t 100% effective, and if he’s such a good boyfriend and cares for her like she said he would understand right? WRONG!! It wasn’t an accident. She consciously got off the pill and did not tell him about it. She decided on her own that she wanted to have child and stopped taking the birth control pills and got pregnant. Her explanation for this was that she has always wanted kids. Even though he said he didn’t want kids and she was cool with it before, she had now gotten to a point where everything was great and she felt the kid was the only thing missing. Having a kid was the logical next step in her life. When asked why she didn’t consult her boyfriend first before getting off the pill, she said she knew he’d say no because he doesn’t want kids and she was hoping that now that she was pregnant he might change his mind and now see it as good thing.
This is the part where you say...well at least she’s telling him now that she knows she’s pregnant so they can make a decision together on whether or not to keep the baby right? WRONG!! She didn’t bring him on the show to tell him because she just recently found out. She had known she was pregnant for months and now not having the kid isn’t a valid option anymore. So the only decision that this man is left with is whether he will be in the child’s life or not. Simply put she trapped him or tried to at least. There’s more to the story.
She tells all this to the hosts of the show. Now it’s time for her to break the news to her boyfriend. They bring him into the studio, he’s introduced and all. Before the news is broken he’s asked about his girlfriend. There is no hesitation in his acknowledgment of her, but you can tell he’s skeptical though. He talks about how they’ve been going strong for a while now, no one has cheated at least to his knowledge. It was at this point that I knew that he didn’t know what was about to hit him. He said "at least to his knowledge" because he knew she brought him on the show to tell him something and he was dreading that was what it was going to be. It didn’t even cross his mind that she was pregnant. I mean why would it, they have an understanding and she’s been on birth control. That’s just MY opinion/assessment of what’s was going on in his head at the time.
(From ABC News)
This is the part where you have got to be thinking...well better late than never, at least she’s coming out and doing the right thing by telling the truth on what she did right? WRONG!! She doesn’t come right out and tell him the truth. She starts of by telling him she’s pregnant. Of course his response to this is that of surprise. How did it happen? That’s what he asks her. She doesn’t say she got off the pill, I guess she forgot she already told the real story to the show hosts, she tries to tell him that she doesn’t know what happened. She says maybe she got a bad batch of pills that didn’t work properly or something and that’s how she got pregnant. She kept on with this story for a little while until the hosts of the show had to call her out and tell the guy the true story of how she got off the pill and got pregnant on purpose. You can tell he’s out of it at this point because he’s now asking her if it's true or not, and if it is why would she do such a thing when she knows he told her from the beginning he didn’t want any kids.
Wheww!!!! Crazy right? The crazy things people do, but it’s not over though. Fast forward about 6-7 months later. They bring her back on the show to see what happened. She says they went home, he tried to be around and for them to stay together but he came home one day and he said he couldn’t do it anymore so he left. She’s had the baby alone now and he’s not involved at all. They decide to call him from the show to see what is going on. They get him on the line and he says he told her he didn’t want a child and since she decided to get off the pill it’s her problem. He even took it a step further, he said he had a new girl who didn’t lie to him (that’s how I know he was hurt).
Now this is the part where I ask what would YOU do? Should this guy, by no wrong doing of his own, be forced to live a life he clearly doesn’t want to live? I mean after all he was nothing but good to her (according to the girl that is). Was she within her rights to do what she did? How would you handle the situation if you were in her position? How about if you were in his situation? Should she take care of the kid on her own since she decided to have it on her own?
There are many questions that can be asked as a result of this story so please fell free to ask & answer some of your own.